I’m doing research on feminism and women in music education for a class. I discovered that for about 100 years, there were women’s brass bands all over the country for towns, fire companies, military groups, and schools. So how the hell did brass instruments become “boy” instruments?! These women marched in parades and won competitions wearing dresses and heels while playing fucking sousaphones. That’s pretty damn cool. I’m going to teach every music class I have about this awesome century in history. Why don’t more people know about this?!
I found myself getting internally and irrationally angry about the “miss/mrs” thing at school today. I got asked about 6 times today if I’m a “Mrs” or not. Who bloody cares? Kids were offended that I called their teacher “Ms.” and said “She’s MARRIED you know”. Like I give a shit. She’s still a respected member of the school, the rest shouldn’t matter.
Whether I’m married or not doesn’t change the fact that I’m a woman and should be addressed as such. I could call a 5 year old Mister if I wanted to, and he’d still be Mister after 4 marriages. But I have to step on eggshells whenever I formally address a woman because I don’t know if she’s married or not? What the fuck ever.
It’s not a matter of “if”, it’s a matter of “when”. My heart is already broken, love.